Same Sex Marriage.

In Australia, in 2012, there are people pushing for the Government to recognize "same sex marriages".

At the same time, there are people saying that this concept cuts across the long held understanding that marriage is only for couples of the opposite sex. Or, to put it another way, marriage is a commitment between a man and a woman, and if they have the capacity to have children, to raise a family.  The commitment between a man and a woman, if their respective roles are faithfully carried out,  helps to provide a safe and secure environment for the children that may result from such a union. Thus - people see the need to maintain this institution  the way it has operated for 1000's of years.

Where Marriage started.

The concept of "marriage" started with Adam and Eve - so it goes back to the very beginning of human existence.

Gen 2:22-24 NET.  Then the LORD God made a woman from the part he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. 
(23)  Then the man said,

    "This one at last is bone of my bones
    and flesh of my flesh;
    this one will be called 'woman,'
    for she was taken out of man." 
(24)  That is why a man leaves his father and mother and unites with his wife, and they become a new family.

Jesus confirmed this for us.

Mat 19:4-6 NET.  He answered, "Have you not read that from the beginning the Creator made them male and female,  (5)  and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and will be united with his wife, and the two will become one flesh'?  (6)  So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate."

He also makes it very clear that He is talking about a union between a male and a female.

Three points.

Before we look a little deeper at what the God of the Bible has to say about marriage, there are three points that people bring into the argument that have nothing to do with marriage.

Perhaps we should look at those first.

1. People are free to make their own decision.

From the time Eve chose to eat the forbidden fruit, until God and Christ come down to earth to set up the Kingdom of God, people have the "freedom" to decide if they want to obey God - or disobey God.

Since God gives each man and each woman this "freedom" to make up their own mind, then men should do no less for other men. To put that another way, men and women who are demanding same sex marriages, have no right to insist that others follow or support them.

It is a personal decision.

Ecc 11:9 NET.  Rejoice, young man, while you are young,
    and let your heart cheer you in the days of your youth.
    Follow the impulses of your heart and the desires of your eyes,
    but know that God will judge your motives and actions.

Yes, we do need to keep in mind, that while exercising free choice is allowed, the results will be judged by God.

Ecc 12:14 NET.  For God will evaluate every deed,
    including every secret thing, whether good or evil.

Heb 13:4 NET.  Marriage must be honored among all and the marriage bed kept undefiled, for God will judge sexually immoral people and adulterers.

2. People need a document recognized by law.

Two men or two women, who have lived together (with or without any sexual activity) and supported each other over many years, need a document that gives the other party some rights when one becomes sick or dies. This document does not need to be a marriage license, but in some ways it would act as a marriage license does.

For instance, the home they are living in could be passed to the surviving partner, rather than the surviving partner being thrown out by the deceased's family. The same should go for all their property - money, life insurance and super policies.

Usually this is attempted to be taken care of in the will of the person who dies, but wills can be challenged in court by the family members, who may win a share or all of the deceased's estate. This puts the care giver at a disadvantage, and  the law needs to step in and help the surviving partner.

3. People should not seek a "document" to somehow justify sodomy.

God leaves us in no doubt that sodomy is a sin, and something to be avoided by all men (in or out of marriage).

Isa 3:9 NET.  The look on their faces testifies to their guilt;
    like the people of Sodom they openly boast of their sin.
    Too bad for them!
    For they bring disaster on themselves.

2Pe 2:6 NET.  and if he turned to ashes the cities of Sodom and Gomorrah when he condemned them to destruction, having appointed them to serve as an example to future generations of the ungodly,

It is important, I feel, that we understand that Sodom and Gomorrah are still being an example today. I have seen video footage taken from Masada - towards the South East - which shows the grey ash coloured square that used to be Sodom. I have also seen a video showing people scraping the surface in the area that was once Sodom, and finding balls of sulphur that were extinguished by that  ash.

The burning sulphur and air mixture, that God rained down on Sodom,  got so hot that it vaporized all metals and burnt the stone of the buildings. Everything that was part of that community was vaporized. God hated their deeds, and in turn, showed what He thought of their behavour.

Gen 19:4-5 NET.  Before they could lie down to sleep, all the men — both young and old, from every part of the city of Sodom — surrounded the house.  (5)  They shouted to Lot, "Where are the men who came to you tonight? Bring them out to us so we can have sex with them!"

Gen 19:24-25 NET.  Then the LORD rained down sulfur and fire on Sodom and Gomorrah. It was sent down from the sky by the LORD.  (25)  So he overthrew those cities and all that region, including all the inhabitants of the cities and the vegetation that grew from the ground.

There is no way men can change the way God thinks about sodomy. No man-made "marriage" document will change the fact that sodomy is a sin, and if unrepented of, will result in punishment by God.

Why marriage?

The strongest argument against "same sex marriage", is brought to the surface when we understand why God instituted marriage in the first place.

For those evolutionists who don't believe in God, the concept of marriage must be difficult for them to understand. There is nothing in the Theory of Evolution that can cause the concept of marriage to come into being, or can explain why it should be part of a human's life. So - people who do not believe in God but are wanting the God given concept of marriage for their own life, can get only get this desire from seeing the concept work. It maybe looking back on their own childhood and family life, or just looking at the many positive examples of marriage in the community around them.

If you don't believe there is a God, then you will always have problems in fully understanding "marriage", and therefore will not be in a position to criticize it.

Marriage was created by God - with good reason - and therefore it is God who defines what a proper marriage should be.  It is certainly not something that "evolved".

The plan of God.

Because men have given a poor translation of John 1:1, by calling the "logos" "the word", the world has failed to understand the plan of God. While "word" is a possible translation of the Greek "logos", the original Aramaic word can also be translated as the "grand design" or the "master plan". Logos has to be neuter in English, so it is an "it", not a person.

If - as verse 3 is telling us - that everything God has done and is doing, is according to this master plan, then it is important that we have some understanding of it.

The plan of God can be shown by a number of different verses in the Bible but by referencing just three places we should be able to make the point.

God is building a family.

1Jn 3:1-3 NET.  (See what sort of love the Father has given to us: that we should be called God's children — and indeed we are! For this reason the world does not know us: because it did not know him.  (2)  Dear friends, we are God's children now, and what we will be has not yet been revealed. We know that whenever it is revealed we will be like him, because we will see him just as he is.  (3)  And everyone who has this hope focused on him purifies himself, just as Jesus is pure).

People have a part in this plan.

Married or unmarried couples that have children - are not having children just for themselves, but in the  long term, they are for God.

Eze 16:20-21 NET.  " 'You took your sons and your daughters whom you bore to me and you sacrificed them as food for the idols to eat. As if your prostitution not enough,  (21)  you slaughtered my children and sacrificed them to the idols.

So, having children, is a big part of God's master plan to create a spiritual family. Of course, a child being born (birth by blood/flesh John 3:6a) is just the start. They have to grow up, accept Christ's sacrifice (birth by water/baptism John 3:5), and be changed to spirit (John 3:5) at the resurrection.

But the big point that needs to be made here is, there would be no spirit beings in the Kingdom of God, if there are not first, physical children being born. Perhaps, this explains why God told Noah and his family;

Gen 9:1 NET.  Then God blessed Noah and his sons and said to them, "Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth.

The more children there are, the more potential spirit beings there will be in God's family. Of course, every human being has to submit to God and agree to keep His laws - otherwise they will be destroyed forever in the lake of fire - but it stands to reason, that the more humans who start out for the Kingdom of God, then the more there will be who make it.

The answer to "why marriage".

Marriage is the process whereby a man and a woman leave their parents and start a new home, where they can have children and bring them up with an understanding that God wants them to go on and be born into the spiritual family of God. Jesus gave us a summary of the human journey in;

Joh 3:5-6 NET.  Jesus answered, "I tell you the solemn truth, unless a person is born of water [adult baptism] and spirit, he cannot enter the kingdom of God.  (6)  What is born of the flesh [human birth] is flesh, and what is born of the Spirit [after a resurrection] is spirit.

Obviously, our "birth of the flesh" - our physical birth - comes first, then our "birth by water" (baptism) is when we start our spiritual journey through life by accepting Christ's sacrifice to atone for our sins, and then hopefully, we end up being "born of the spirit" and changed from physical to spirit material - at our resurrection.

The God intended reason for marriage will only work when a man and a woman are involved.

Take it to extremes.

Sometimes, the logic behind a thought can be brought to the surface, by taking it to extremes.

Only heterosexual marriages.

The system of a man and woman becoming married, and then having a family, has been shown to work rather well. Some would say - too well, as they look at the world's rising population - but as far as producing potential "sons of God" goes, it is exactly what is needed.

Only homosexual marriages.

No children could be conceived and born under this arrangement. Nor would there be children to "adopt". This arrangement totally goes against the reason why God has given men and women the powers of sexual reproduction in the first place.

A mixture.    

While the above two examples are the extremes, some people want a mixture of the two. In other words, same sex couples having children via a third party.

When same sex couples start talking about wanting children, then their "argument" about wanting a same sex "marriage" falls over. They are saying in effect, that same sex marriages are "incomplete" - and therefore the world should not acknowledge them in any shape or form. The issue of "three" people having to be involved in order for a child to be born, is as about a foreign to the meaning of  marriage as you can get. It also breaks the spirit of the Seventh Commandment as it requires someone to commit adultery. Some might say "but it is only a test tube" - that may be, but it still breaks the spirit of the Seventh Commandment.

Marriage not required by all.

I think it is important that we all understand that marriage is a choice, not a requirement. There is no sin involved in not getting married. A look at a couple of Scriptures.

Mat 19:12 NET.  For there are some eunuchs who were that way from birth, and some who were made eunuchs by others, and some who became eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The one who is able to accept this should accept it."

An eunuch is someone who is incapable of reproduction, and as such, would possibly not marry. However, we should notice that Jesus is also talking about men (or women) who put off reproduction for spiritual reasons. In other words, they are physically capable, but for greater cause, put aside that aspect of their life. So - both, not getting married, or not having children within a marriage, is not a sin, though clearly God expects it to be a minority (and against the instruction to "go forth and multiply").

1Co 7:8-9 NET.  To the unmarried and widows I say that it is best for them to remain as I am.  (9)  But if they do not have self-control, let them get married. For it is better to marry than to burn with sexual desire.

The Apostle Paul saw no sin in people remaining unmarried - and the indication is that he was unmarried at the time he wrote this (but there is also an indication that he was previously married).

We have choices in what we do in life.

1.    We can follow the normal pattern.  When we are mature, we can get married, create a new home, and raise children for God.

2.    If we have no "feelings" for the opposite sex, we can remain single.

3.    We can marry, but for whatever reason, not have any children.

However, having same-sex unions is not an option as far as God is concerned.

God's teaching on same sex relationships.

The Bible gives us amply instruction about what type of relationships are acceptable in God's eyes, and what are not.

So, the problem is not about not knowing - it is really about people not being willing to follow the instructions given. In other words, certain men and women want to rebel against God. Then, to make them "feel better" about their rebellion, they want people and governments to "condone" their sinful behavior.  However, getting others to "condone" does not get around God having the final say.

Gal 6:7-8 NKJV  Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap.  (8)  For he who sows to his flesh will of the flesh reap corruption, but he who sows to the Spirit will of the Spirit reap everlasting life.

The Old Testament.

The very clear instruction that is an umbrella over all we can say about sexual intercourse.

Exo 20:14 NET.  "You shall not commit adultery.

Adultery is sex outside of marriage. The principle also covers fortification - sex before marriage. People in a same sex "marriages", and don't have sex with anyone else, may feel that they are not committing adultery - and that may well be true in their mind. However, the Seventh Commandment is just one of many principles that God has given to help preserve wholesome marriages, and we need to keep all principles in mind. Just getting one "right' does not justify breaking others.
While God did create the sex organs of men and women, He also does not want them used in whatever way we please. In other words, there is a right use and many wrong uses.

Lev 18:23 NET.  You must not have sexual intercourse with any animal to become defiled with it, and a woman must not stand before an animal to have sexual intercourse with it; it is a perversion.

Lev 20:15-16 NET.  If a man has sexual intercourse with any animal, he must be put to death, and you must kill the animal.  (16)  If a woman approaches any animal to have sexual intercourse with it, you must kill the woman, and the animal must be put to death; their blood guilt is on themselves.

Some may wonder why the animal is also put to death.

From what I have read, animals do not naturally permit humans to have sex with them, so they have to be trained to allow such un-natural activity. Leaving such a trained animal alive may incite others to "try" such a perversion for themselves.

So - our sex organs should not be used with animals.

Next - what about all other heterosexual humans?

Lev 20:17 NET.  " 'If a man has sexual intercourse with his sister, whether the daughter of his father or his mother, so that he sees her nakedness and she sees his nakedness, it is a disgrace. They must be cut off in the sight of the children of their people. He has exposed his sister's nakedness; he will bear his punishment for iniquity.

Lev 18:6-7 NET.  " 'No man is to approach any close relative to have sexual intercourse with her. I am the LORD.  (7)  You must not expose your father's nakedness by having sexual intercourse with your mother. She is your mother; you must not have intercourse with her.

God's thoughts are clear - no sex with other family members, and that includes by birth and by marriage (Lev 18:6-18).

Lev 20:18 NET.  If a man has sexual intercourse with a menstruating woman and uncovers her nakedness, he has laid bare her fountain of blood and she has exposed the fountain of her blood, so both of them must be cut off from the midst of their people.

Even within a heterosexual marriage, there are still times when "having sex" is still wrong.

What about homosexual relationships?

Lev 18:22 NET.  You must not have sexual intercourse with a male as one has sexual intercourse with a woman; it is a detestable act.

Lev 20:13 NET.  If a man has sexual intercourse with a male as one has sexual intercourse with a woman, the two of them have committed an abomination. They must be put to death; their blood guilt is on themselves.

Summary of Old Testament instructions.

The desire to have sex has to be very much controlled.

As far as God is concerned, sex must only be within a heterosexual marriage, and not on certain days of the woman's monthly cycle.

The New testament.

The instructions given by God in the Old Testament, carry over to those living under the New Testament. That said, some New Testament instructions confirm God's thoughts on the matter.

1Co 5:1 NET.  It is actually reported that sexual immorality exists among you, the kind of immorality that is not permitted even among the Gentiles, so that someone is cohabiting with his father's wife.

This backs up the OT instruction of not having sex with family members - either by birth of marriage.

Jud 1:7 NET.  So also Sodom and Gomorrah and the neighboring towns, since they indulged in sexual immorality and pursued unnatural desire in a way similar to these angels, are now displayed as an example by suffering the punishment of eternal fire.

Jude reminds us of the example God made of Sodom and the other towns that practiced sodomy.

1Ti 1:8-10 NET.  But we know that the law is good if someone uses it legitimately,  (9)  realizing that law is not intended for a righteous person, but for lawless and rebellious people, for the ungodly and sinners, for the unholy and profane, for those who kill their fathers or mothers, for murderers,  (10)  sexually immoral people, practicing homosexuals, kidnappers, liars, perjurers — in fact, for any who live contrary to sound teaching.

The Apostle Paul brings out that those who use their sex organs in a wrong way - are people who are rebelling against God and His instructions.

1Co 6:9-10 NET.  Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived! The sexually immoral, idolaters, adulterers, passive homosexual partners, practicing homosexuals,  (10)  thieves, the greedy, drunkards, the verbally abusive, and swindlers will not inherit the kingdom of God.

Rom 1:25-27 NET.  They exchanged the truth of God for a lie and worshiped and served the creation rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever! Amen.  (26)  For this reason God gave them over to dishonorable passions. For their women exchanged the natural sexual relations for unnatural ones,  (27)  and likewise the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed in their passions for one another. Men committed shameless acts with men and received in themselves the due penalty for their error.

How much clearer can the instructions be?

Summary of the New Testament.

The New Testament fully backs up and supports the instructions God gives in the Old Testament, about when and with whom it is OK to have sex.

In simple terms, sex is only to be enjoyed - at the right time - within a heterosexual marriage.

The Life Application Study Bible.

I think it is worth noting what the above Bible has to say in the introduction to the Song of Songs.

"In reality, sexual intercourse, the physical and emotional union of male and female, should be a holy means of celebrating love, producing children, and experiencing pleasure, protected by the commitment of marriage".

The problem for our government.

People are asking our government to pass a man made law that makes marriages between same sex couples "legal" in Australia (and other governments are being asked to do this too).

If this was to happen, then the government has decided to condone sin (the transgression of God's law 1 John 3:4 KJV). This brings in a principle, that if we get too close to sin, or even support people sinning, then we take on their guilt.

Rev 18:4 NET.  Then I heard another voice from heaven saying, "Come out of her, my people, so you will not take part in her sins and so you will not receive her plagues,

If we support sin in any way, then the correction poured out on the sinners, will also be poured out on us.

The government represents the people of Australia. If the government gets it wrong, then all the people of Australia are drawn in to feeling God's displeasure about the sin.


The Bible - containing God's instructions to us - is very clear.

Sex is to only be enjoyed within a heterosexual relationship [marriage], but even then,  not on certain days of the monthly cycle.

The reason for "Marriage" is to create an environment where children can be born and then taught that they should go on and form a strong bond with their heavenly Father, and eventually be born into the family of God.

Same sex marriages go against what God wants, and would be a delight to Satan - who is opposed to all God is doing.

Bob Orchard July 2011

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